Although self-confidence can mean different things to different people, in reality it simply means having faith in yourself.
Everyone faces some hard knocks along the way, but for our children it’s important to equip them early with enough self-confidence to not only survive, but thrive.
Here are some things you can do, not only for your own self-confidence, but your child’s as well.
- Offer acknowledgment of accomplishments. Keep the emphasis on hard work and giving credit when and where it is due. Acknowledge that there is a connection between hard work and success. Brain wave tests prove that when we use positive words, our “feel good” hormones flow. As a result, self-confidence grows.
- Set attainable goals. Have a conversation about what you and/or your children want to achieve and record the steps needed to make those goals a reality. Even a small step in the right direction is something which should be celebrated. As a result, self-confidence grows.
- Be a positive role model. As kindness passes through you to another, you experience it too. Your gift to them is also a gift to yourself. Not only will you find positives in others but you will start to see more positives in areas of your life as well. Sometimes all it takes is a brief conversation to spark a positive outcome. Positive self-talk is also important and remember to take care of how you speak to yourself…because…you are listening. In fact, Brene Brown, a research professor at the University of Houston says, “Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.” As a result, self-confidence grows.
- Build on strengths. We can all do most things but what differs is the standard to which we can perform the task. Once something is done, it can always be improved upon. Focus on doing whatever you’re best at and prove to yourself instead of others that you are competent and confident. Encourage children to help with certain tasks where appropriate. You don’t always have to improve your life; you just need to start seeing the good in your life. As a result, self-confidence grows.
- Be encouraging. You should personally be encouraged as well as encouraging your children to do better than before. Don’t do everything for them. Teach them to tie their own shoes, to zip or button their own coat, and to put away their toys. Practice complimenting others and finding something to appreciate each day. You will soon realize that your life is better than you think it is. As a result, self-confidence grows.
A quote from author Karen Lamb, “A year from now you may wish you had started today.”
Dig deep. Find your inner strength. The time is now.